We are quick to encourage ourselves to stay away from toxic people, but what happens and what do we do when we are toxic to ourselves. We talk about how toxic people can affect our mental health and truncate our growth with toxic nature. The truth is we can be toxic to ourselves. As much we strive to identify toxic people in our lives daily, we need to be able to identify when we become toxic to ourselves and those around us.
Toxicity is relative by all means. Who appears toxic to you may not be toxic to another. People can be toxic to us without us knowing. We must understand how people affect us early in life. How their presence affects. How their actions impact our lives.
Here are 5 ways we can become toxic to ourselves-
. Giving In To Negative Pressures
Negative energy is all around us. It’s easy to lose our way in a dysfunctional world like ours and walk into things that we ought to be walking away from. If you always find yourself talking people into doing bad things and going against God’s standard or their morals, it’s a clear sign that you are becoming toxic to yourself and those around you.
Quitting doing things out of pressure. If you’re not comfortable with something, be bold enough to speak out. You won’t be hurting anyone more than yourself if you fail to stand up for what you believe in. Quit hanging around people who force you to go against your standards and God’s standard. Life is about many things and you always have a choice.
. Having An Attitude Of Ingratitude
The moment you realize you are lacking an attitude of gratitude, you are becoming toxic to yourself. It’s perfectly normal to desire the good things of life, but it shouldn’t replace your sense of gratitude. Don’t return people’s good deeds with disdain and less appreciation because it’s not what you were expecting. Or perhaps you feel you deserve better. A little appreciation goes a long way. Quit using people’s good deeds to blackmail them or speak badly about them. Life is irregular but that is not enough reason for you to be ungrateful to God. He remains faithful even when we unfaithful.
Our parents may not have the world to offer us but they give us the best of what they have. For that, they deserve our gratitude. When we refuse to give or show gratitude to those that deserve it, we become toxic to ourselves and everyone around us. Our ingratitude can lead others to be less giving and uncaring. As much as we need to get rid of toxic people, we need to ensure we don’t become toxic to others through our attitude of ingratitude.
. Becoming An Emotional Bully
We are all guilty of this. We play the victim to our loved ones especially when we want them to do our bidding. Understand that bullying people emotionally would cause people to stay away from you. When you abuse people emotionally, you affect their mental and psychological health. Quit talking down on people because you feel you have the power to. Speak kind words to people and allow them to express their views. Words are powerful, choose yours carefully. Speak but don’t yell.
People would avoid plaque if your words break them. As your words can break others, it can also break you. Don’t talk down on yourself. When you do that you emotionally abuse yourself.
Make it a point of duty to never say words that would break people and make them vulnerable.
. Becoming A Gossip
Don’t play to your weakness and become a gossip. Rumors spread like wildfire and the rumor mongers are toxic people. People don’t always have the time to verify the information they receive before they react. And the damages are not easy to correct. If you constantly feel the need to spread false rumors about people to get back at them, you are toxic to yourself.
If you feel your security is under threat, sit down and restrategize but don’t allow your insecurities to damage your self-esteem and turn you into a bitter person. No one needs a bitter person around them and you don’t need you bitter.
Keep every form of gossip away from your life. Confront people if you feel cornered but don’t speak behind their back. It turns you into a toxic person, hateful, and spiteful.
. Becoming Envious
Envy is dangerous. It teaches you how to push faults to other people. Envy blinds your sense of reasoning and makes you a pro in playing the blame game. Everyone has got their own time to shine, but when you get envious of others, you fail to understand the different seasons and times of life. Envious people are desperate people. They are never happy for the people who win before them. There is enough space in the sky for every bird. Don’t give in to envy, it will only drag you down and everyone else.
If you have bouts of envy, jealousy, or resentment to someone, you are becoming toxic to yourself. You need to ask the Holy Spirit to clean you from the inside out.
When people don’t want to be around because they find you toxic, things would get tough for you. If you have any of these traits its time to recognize that you are toxic to yourself and everyone around you. Make a decision today to let the Holy Spirit in and help you become the person he needs you to be.
Self-Toxicity is real. Have you become toxic to yourself? Share your thoughts with me.