We’ve all seen, or perhaps some of us have witnessed, one form of abuse in relationships, and there is nothing romantic about it. Whether we believe it or not, there are narcissists in almost 75% of today’s relationships, and many look for a healthy way out. Do narcissists understand what it means to have a healthy relationship with their partners? There is Narcissism In Everyday Relationships – Is There A Way Out?
There’s often a solid push to stamp our needs and rules on our foreheads to enforce our superiority and authority. This behavior is typical of narcissists. They are so concentrated on themselves that they cannot really “see” their partner as a person but instead as a means to fulfill their desires.
Narcissistic partners can be fascinating and enticing, but don’t get it twisted because arrogance, pride, injustice, and manipulations lie beneath that new smile and calm eyes. These are all the watchwords of a narcissist. His mental cognition is toxic, and his behavioral patterns are psychotic. Narcissists are always right, they know better, and every other person is wrong or not good enough. Partners of narcissists are always walking on eggshells. They constantly have to defend themselves and, most times, lose their identities in the long run.
Dating a narcissist is a big deal. They are controlling in any relationship they find themselves in. They are easily angered, obsessively jealous, dramatic, and seeking attention over everything. We mustn’t also forget that they play the victim all the time. The grave consequences are usually substantial and affect the partner’s daily functioning. Considering the mental damages before deciding to date a narcissist is imperative.
Is a narcissistic personality bullying you? Is there a way out?
Narcissists are likable at the beginning. They seem fun, engaging, and easy-going. This discovery is why many people fall victim to their abuse.
If you’ve found yourself cut into the web of a narcissist in the name of a relationship, you need to understand what you’ve gotten yourself into. Living in denial won’t fix their negative behavioral patterns. Acceptance brings deliverance.
. First, ask yourself, “how did I make such a decision? Am I self-centered? Do I want someone to always be in control of my life? Does my self-confidence blossom in the lights of another?
The answers to these questions will help you set the proper boundaries as you plan your way out of the relationship.
. Reflect on every conscious and unconscious motive your narcissist partner makes. Please don’t get comfortable with his negative behavioral patterns. Your voice counts, and you must learn to speak up for yourself. Be in control of your life and the events that occur in it. Live intentionally and seek mental help immediately.
. Learn to think for yourself. Don’t glorify or celebrate his ego, superiority, and flaws. Develop your mental strength and self-confidence. Love yourself enough to know when you are being loved and tolerated.
. Provoke your partner to change their technique of relating. Quit covering up their abuses and stupidity. There is nothing beautiful about self- hate. You don’t have to hate yourself to please your narcissistic partner.
Don’t be a victim. When it comes to mental development, recognizing your value and separating from self-attacking attitudes is crucial.
If your happiness is compromised in the relationship, you have every animal right to get out.
Your mental wellness is non-negotiable.
Blessings and Love ❤️
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My ex-husband was a narcissist and still is. He has a sexual addiction and left me for another woman and then tried to return when that relationship didn’t work out claiming he’d made a mistake. I said too late. He just wouldn’t stop and continued to come at me with very disturbing x-rated fantasies no matter if I said I’m not interested, I’m remarried with kids, etc. He refused to take the fact that I didn’t want to be with him and didn’t care for his x-rated messages because they were harassment and unwanted. I told him I wasn’t a tool. You can’t just throw a person away like a piece of trash and then dig them back up when you want them again. Also there was no small talk. There was no “Hey, how’s it going?” or “How’s life been?”
It was just straight going from 1 to 1000. Going directly to very demeaning sexual talk, picking up where he left off like we didn’t go through a painful divorce, like he didn’t leave me for another woman. He’d claimed he needs me to help him through his own self-inflicted loneliness after he’d filed for divorce on his wife. He inflated himself claiming that he’s a 9 out of a scale from 1-10, asking me for inappropriate pictures of me, etc. I told him what he needs is to leave me the hell alone and what he needs is a therapist. I had to repeatedly block all of his emails, phone numbers, and social. He’d go away and then make new emails, new phone numbers, and new social accounts and then try to contact me again and again and again. I’ve had to repeatedly block him. The next step will most likely be a restraining order but it’s very strict for stuff like digital stalking. You need tons and tons of evidence. I have screenshots saved, but it may not be enough. So for now I continue to block and not engage with him at all.
I am sorry you had to put up with so many negative energies from your ex-husband.
You are courageous to realize his narcissistic behaviors. You deserve better.
Your mental wellness is non-negotiable. Keep taking care of yourself, and never forget you deserve to love and be loved.
Thank you for sharing with us. Your truth will help many people and encourage them to choose and deserve better.
Much love ❤️