The aftermath of some of the decisions we make in life can be overwhelming especially when they are wrongly made.
Ever felt like nothing matters and so you do whatever you want and whenever you like it? Yes, sometimes i do. Especially when push comes to strove and everything you had or thought you knew walks away and makes you believe you never had them.
Giving in to circumstances doesn’t make it ok rather it subjects and limits you. It eradicates any thoughts of you been able to rise up and be better.
Keep your​ heads up and be rest assured that God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.

Last week i had so much on my mind and thought i won’t be able to break forth. Combining taking care of the family, school work, writing and spending time with the Lord had the best of me. I reached the point where i thought it’s all over. For a while my brain just shut down, it couldn’t process anything. I was simply oblivious of what was happening around me. Thankfully, i didn’t make any hasty or drastic decision.( Smiles)

Sometimes, in spite of how strongly we feel about a thing or doing something good for others, we always feel some sort of restrictions. I have learnt that people make people bad. But then, to understand the effects of bad decisions, it’s important we understand what it means to do bad or make bad decisions. My philosophy Lecturer would always say “There is no bad nor evil in the world, for what i consider evil is good to another and what i consider good is evil to another”, “The conscience is not an absolute determinant of what’s good or bad.

It’s decisions are often subjective in nature”. I have been trying to reconcile these arguments, when am doing with my findings I will let you all know.
Nevertheless, a bad decision is one in which you shut down any other voice or sense of reasoning and at the end you just know you shouldn’t have made that decision.

Some people only considers that their actions are wrong when things go wrong and when it doesn’t they consider it right regardless of who they’ve hurt with their actions. We need to understand there will always be consequences for our actions and oftentimes they are unpredictable and unexpected. The law of karma is yet to go into extinction..Not every one gets the chance to make things right after a wrong decision has been made. It is true that most decision gives us room to be better and make the right ones, the question is “How many of us gets so lucky to get such opportunity”? It’s not always possible to know the potential consequences of an action before you take them or make them.

Stop making decisions when you don’t have all the information you need. Don’t make any when you are sad, happy or uncertain either. Whenever we ignore the signals in our own system and make bad decisions, there will be consequences. There will be misery and disappointment. Guaranteed. It’s only a question of when, and how much.

For every wrong decision we make, we put ourselves in compromising position. Oftentimes, we don’t get what we actually want even though it’s at the expense of others and relationships have been damaged, trust lost and love gone sour. Anxiety, guilt, anger, depression, distress and pain sets in. Lessons will be learnt the hard way and unexpectedly, life gets wasted.

Let’s not say yes when we mean to say no, be with people that don’t need us or appreciate us. We don’t have to do anything we don’t want to do. Make your own decisions and stop allowing life, situations and people do that for you.

 Ann Aguirre ” This guilt is a joke and it’s exhausting watching you martyr yourself”…

Blessings and Love ?❤️?

Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog),, The Social Talks,, and Mental Wellness Society International. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation.

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