There are people in life that will never apologize no matter what you say or do and there are people who would not stand to see another get hurt. There are also people who will never admit they were or are wrong, as long as they are concerned they are always right. They are pumpous, egoistic, overconfident, self-acclaimed perfectionist, and so on and so forth. If they offend you and you expect them to apologize, then you must be willing to wait all seasons because they won’t. Why is this so common today? I can’t seem to get my head around it. 

Relationship are not devoid of such persons, there are people that have lost good relationships, marriages, careers, assistant, all because they could not say “I’m sorry” when they did something wrong. Let me ask, does it mean when we apologize for a wrong done we loose our dignity? Do we loose our self esteem? Do we appear weak? Does it change who we are or what we are? Do we need to wait for people that offended us to apologize before we forgive them? I know the scriptures in Collosians 3:13 ” Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”
We do not need to wait for people to apologize before we forgive them. If we are dealing with people with these traits, if they offend us then we must learn to forgive them without having to wait for them to apologize for it will take eternity for them to forgive. 
I have come to realize that why some people never say i’m sorry is because most people don’t like to be wrong or even admit to be wrong. They believe if they admit to be wrong, they become inadequate and to me this is crazy. No one is perfect and as such wrong is inevitable. One of the essential ingredient of learning is being wrong and apologizing makes us decent and not weak. People are afraid of taking and accepting their responsibilities and so they would do anything to avoid the burden of being saddled with being wrong. Only very few people realise the importance of saying i’m sorry and they learn from it for a life time.

People who find it difficult to say am sorry are less sensitive to the needs and emotions of other people. They are selfish and should be pitied. I know that apologizing is not a natural thing otherwise we would see animals apologizing to one another, it needs to be taught. We need to teach our children to apologize when they do something wrong or offend anyone otherwise they will grow up and see apologizing as a very “Difficult” thing to do. 
Don’t be afraid of your inadequacies, let go of fear, realise it’s not always about yourself, admit when you need to, acknowledge the potentials of others and the fact they can fall short as well. #itsnotalwaysaboutyou.

Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog),, The Social Talks,, and Mental Wellness Society International. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation.

16 Thoughts on “Saying I'm Sorry… Difficult?”

  • “People who find it difficult to say am sorry are less sensitive to the needs and emotions of other people. They are selfish and should be pitied. ” Pitied? I dont agree. redirected, maybe. to be accepted as they are? maybe. to be exposed to a more sensitive way to be? always.
    it is the differences that is in us all that make life, life. if it was all the same? how boring life would be.
    i may keep my distance from those people, but when near? show them a more positive way to be a person.

    • The good thing about life is that everyone is entitled to their own opinion about issues. From my experience with such persons I pity them not because they are not Redeemable but because they can’t see they need to change their actions and don’t even care. It is the difference in us all that makes life, life… Totally. The fact is even when you show them the positive way to be a person or even a better person, some won’t still appreciate it much less accept it. Thanks buddy your comments are always reflective. So glad you shared with us.

  • Oh Lord. I could write a book on this subject. I have to tell you guys something. I’ve been a Christian for 19 years and I still find it hard to say I’m sorry. I have finally in the last few months realized that I don’t have to apologize for stuff I didn’t do. I do when I’m at work because that’s part of my job, but outside of work if I didn’t do anything wrong I don’t apologize. Now if I am wrong I will apologize. I may not in the moment apologize for what I did, but I do go back and say I’m sorry and apologize. We are all guilty of this. I think this is something we all have to work on. I forgive people for myself so I can move forward with my life. I don’t want to look over my shoulder have all this regret, bitterness, and anger. So many people live with that and all it does end your life a lot sooner. If you would just forgive and say I’m sorry when you are in the wrong and move forward with your life there would be more love, unity, peace, and less sickness, death, regret, anger, bitterness, and a heck of a lot less hate in the world. Thank you Whitney for touching on subjects like this. The more we talk about these things and share them with others and not only share them, but live them in our daily lives we would be so much better off. Thanks again Whitney and I hope you are having a wonderful day this beautiful Sunday day!!

  • Great post … Ian Saying sorry for some is the hardest thing to do … Personally for me it’s the easiest as l learned by saying sorry when you don’t even belief you are in the wrong taught me everyone is human and we are all wrong sometimes and maybe just by saying sorry when any disagreement occurs clears the air and if your not in the wrong this time … Eventually God will provide the way and the truth ? Forgiveness is divine ..

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