A lot of people dread this word and resist the idea of being commited to anything, because they want to be “free”. Freedom is not being able to do whatever you want whenever you want it. Real freedom is the ability to make choices that honor God and align with his word. To be free means we can discipline ourselves to obey God and align with his word, knowing it will lead to peace and great fulfilment in life.
Many people want their lives to be different but are not willing to change their livestyles. One of the most important lesson I have learned about christain is that it is walked out in a lifestyle of commitment and not wishful thinking. If we want to truly change anything, we must learn to have a good plan and this goes beyond having good intentions or wishes. You can not have a plan without the goal to be committed to the end otherwise it become wishful thinking. Many young couples often dream of growing old together. Those dating also wish it could last forever but this is not always the case. The question is how committed are we in our relationships? How many of us are truly happy and willing to stay committed? Is committment that scary? Does it require a strict sense of duty to make it possible?
How does one stay with one partner for a lifetime? Forever is a very long time right? Well that’s what commitment is. You make up your mind to stay committed through thick and thin to one another. Happiness becomes the glue that keeps them glued together but this is not always the case today. Commitment just like marriage is a lot of work, it requires strict dedication and conscious decision to make it work and this is also a scarce commodity in our crazy world today. When we commit ourselves to our partner, work, relationship, God, we weave tiny thread of details that binds us to them and when we feel strongly connected to them it’s not just because we love them alone but because we now have a life with them and that includes both the good times and the bad times. These moments gradually grow into history that becomes very deep and binding. The question is how committed are we? How committed are we to our children? Family? Parents? Career? Life pursuits? God?ect.
Loyalty is a virtue we must possess if we intend to be committed. It takes commitment to the next level and qualifies our actions with the people or things we are committed to. It helps to strengthen our ties, bonds and keeps us together. I call it the “driving force”. Keeping your partner and listening to them even when all the chips are down is a big part of being loyal. It takes time and a lot of effort to understand one another and to be dedicated to our pursuits. But we need it, don’t we?
Staying committed takes staying focused on your goals even when it is difficult and it requires sacrifice. We all need time to ourselves at some point but we must make sure we adjust our time and spend time with the ones we love and care about.
It’s not easy I know. Because if it was, there will be no success stories in our world today. There will be no successful marriages, friendships, relationships, ect. Keep working, keep striving, never give up. Fall down seven times, get up eight. Without commitment you’ll never start but most importantly without consistency you’ll never finish. Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship. So, keep moving, keep growing, keep learning and stay committed.