A lot of people dread this word and resist the idea of being commited to anything​, because they want to be “free”. Freedom is not being able to do whatever you want whenever you want it. Real freedom is the ability to make choices that honor God and align with his word. To be free means we can discipline ourselves to obey God and align with his word, knowing it will lead to peace and great fulfilment in life. 

Many people want their lives to be different but are not willing to change their livestyles. One of the most important lesson I have learned about christain is that it is walked out in a lifestyle of commitment and not wishful thinking. If we want to truly change anything, we must learn to have a good plan and this goes beyond having good intentions or wishes. You can not have a plan without the goal to be committed to the end otherwise it become wishful thinking. Many young couples often dream of growing old together. Those dating also wish it could last forever but this is not always the case. The question is how committed are we in our relationships? How many of us are truly happy and willing to stay committed? Is committment that scary? Does it require a strict sense of duty to make it possible?

How does one stay with one partner for a lifetime? Forever is a very long time right? Well that’s what commitment is. You make up your mind to stay committed through thick and thin to one another. Happiness becomes the glue that keeps them glued together but this is not always the case today. Commitment just like marriage is a lot of work, it requires strict dedication and conscious decision to make it work and this is also a scarce commodity in our crazy world today. When we commit ourselves to our partner, work, relationship, God, we weave tiny thread of details that binds us to them and when we feel strongly connected to them it’s not just because we love them alone but because we now have a life with them and that includes both the good times and the bad times. These moments gradually grow into history that becomes very deep and binding. The question is how committed are we? How committed are we to our children? Family? Parents? Career? Life pursuits? God?ect.

Loyalty is a virtue we must possess if we intend to be committed. It takes commitment to the next level and qualifies our actions with the people or things we are committed to. It helps to strengthen our ties, bonds and keeps us together. I call it the “driving force”. Keeping your partner and listening to them even when all the chips are down is a big part of being loyal. It takes time and a lot of effort to understand one another and to be dedicated to our pursuits. But we need it, don’t we?

Staying committed takes staying focused on your goals even when it is difficult and it requires sacrifice. We all need time to ourselves at some point but we must make sure we adjust our time and spend time with the ones we love and care about.

It’s not easy I know. Because if it was, there will be no success stories in our world today. There will be no successful marriages, friendships, relationships, ect.  Keep working, keep striving, never give up. Fall down seven times, get up eight. Without commitment you’ll never start but most importantly without consistency you’ll never finish. Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship. So, keep moving, keep growing, keep learning and stay committed. 

Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog), Flyhiee.com, The Social Talks, Penprofile.com, and Mental Wellness Society International. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation.

12 Thoughts on “Commitment….”

    • Do you know what I love and appreciate about you? Its your genuine and honest transparency. Hold on to it, it will surely take you places you never thought of. I’m honored to have you as a friend and part of my world. Thank you for sharing with us.

      • Thank you Whitney. I appreciate that. It took me a long time to be genuine and be really honest about myself and I just want to share that with the world. I know that I will not connect with everyone, but I am honored to connect with the people that I have connected with. Thank you. I am honored to have you as a friend and part of my world as well. I love that you are genuine and that you appreciate other’s and their qualities. That is a wonderful trait don’t lose that. Have a wonderful day my love!

  • As a Christian we are in the world but not of it. We should date with the intention of marriage. Period. Chastity isn’t a choice but should be something you enjoy. I taught my children the same thing…date with intention of marriage. When you see that perhaps this one is not marriage material break it off now. This society of hook ups and unofficially official relationships is of the world. It will lead to misery and pain…it is a house built on sand.

    • Yes my friend I agree with you as well. One will chase 10, 000 but two dedicated and committed minds will chase as far as 40,000. Thank you for the analogy and for dropping by. Please do visit again.

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