Not Broken.

You Are Not Broken.

My life is directed by many values. Values that have shaped my beliefs, customs and strength. As I grew older, I have come to understand nothing has shaped me more than knowing that I am not broken for anyone to fix. As a counselor, mother, educator, the first thing I tell my clients, students and daughters when they are feeling worn-out, overwhelmed and displaced, is, “You’re not broken”. I feel that life lessons are learned when one is strengthened psychologically. I do not allow my moral beliefs to be swayed in opposing directions by anyone. Standing out from others is not something people would normally want or accept, but that’s okay. I find that being different is a positive way to be identified and remembered.

Everyone is special and unique in their own way, whether they have disabilities or bad habits. Very often we feel we are in the position to fix people and so we go about acting all self righteous and know it all. Very often we speak up only to throw our opinions, ideas and thoughts to people who needs their voices to be heard. Your opinion ends up being unwanted and unhelpful. Don’t give advice to people or try to fix anyone unless they ask for it. If you do, it would only appear belittling to them and you would come off as a know it all and trust me, no one likes a know it all.

Quit sharing criticism at someone else’s expense. Study what you don’t understand rather than write it off. Be patient with people. There are people who find themselves constantly debased by life struggles, overwhelmed with all they find themselves in on a daily basis. You, on the other hand, may have control over your own destiny and have things working out for you and so you fail to realize that those people with issues are pleasant people, extremely amazing but lack the ability to succeed. They are in a difficult situation doesn’t mean they are, “broken”.

If you find yourself with a dark cloud hovering overhead, understand that it’s not a definition of you are. It’s only a phase that will pass. You have more courage, strength and will than you can ever imagine. Your ability to endure more hardships, make more sacrifices for others is applaudable and it’s something many of us don’t have. You know what it means to be humble and you also appreciate the smallest blessings your lives have been bestowed with. You’ve got no need to feel dominant over anyone. You are kind and respectful regardless of the situation you find yourself in. Never allow anyone to tag you, “broken”.

If you’re reading this now, I need you to know you’re amazing. You’re one of a kind. Exceptionally created and gifted. There’s no one earth like you. You deserve to be loved, cared for, and you deserve peace of mind. No one should take that away from you. Surround yourself with people who see past your flaws and love you warts and all. Most importantly, you deserve someone who, wouldn’t you in ways you would never think of hurting them.

Love you all.

Blessings and Love

Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog),, The Social Talk, and She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation. Whitney is a full-time Inspirational Blogger and Writer making a living from this new and active medium. I'm also an author and speaker. She started Whitney Ibe's blog in 2016 after she stumbled on a blog post by the blogger; shattered in him. She fell in love with blogging immediately. She explored issues of religion, relationship, culture, society, spirituality, politics, and music. She is doing what she loves to do, writing and inspiring people to become better versions of themselves. Her goal is to add more value to your world than you ever dreamed possible by providing life-changing, inspiring, motivating articles, blog posts, poetry, and short stories. As a life coach, consultant, Edna is focused on an individual's personal development and happiness. She is skilled at providing structured questions to help coordinate an individual's thoughts and has excellent reasoning skills for assisting clients in setting tangible goals. She is accommodating and not prudent with her knowledge. She knows what she’s doing and loves helping others achieve their goals. Many of the top bloggers on WordPress and various websites have learned from her writing style, and it has helped them get their blogs to where they are now. Her website is full of great material to help you follow in her footsteps. She has helped many bloggers, and I can’t praise her enough.  You will learn so much from her.  She has one of those sites that you can easily get lost in reading her excellent posts. She loves dessert,t especially chocolate mixed with whipped cream and strawberries. She enjoys long walks on the beach.

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