I am  pretty sure everyone must have spilt milk in their childhood either during breakfast, lunch or dinner.  I do remember my mom telling me that while i was little, i was very inquisitive. I always wanted to know everything and so one faithful day she prepared hot water for tea and left it on the table, i crept to the table and kept shaking it and finally the glass of milk on the table spilled and poured on me. I started crying and that brought my mom into the room. I can imagine the look on her face but then she told me that she didn’t cry over the milk i spilled rather she thanked God that the hot water didn’t pour on me. 

My mom would always say ” Don’t cry over the spilt milk.” These were merely five words but have great wisdom in them. Today, when I recall this, it’s not always easy to not express what we feel and how we feel especially when we are hurt. I feel that we should really not cry over spilt milk but learn from our mistakes and try to avoid them in future. I have seen many students who appear for an exam and fail to perform good in the exam. So, after the exam, they start thinking on how bad the exam was and before you know it, they spend hours in that. Their thinking will not change anything regardless of how much efforts they put into it. The obvious consequence is students not able to perform well in immediate next exam because they just spent time in crying over what happened in previous exam. So, a good piece of suggestion is not to think for a long on the exam , but instead learn from the mistake and to avoid that.

Failure is not an uncommon thing. Everyone must encounter it at some point in life and while some embrace it, others don’t. But learning from failure is comparitively difficult. And learning from failure and implementing new approach or avoiding previous mistakes and achieving success is much more difficult. 

A friend of mine went for a presentation but failed to nail it. He could not take that failure and just kept thinking and got depressed and also stayed away from everyone. One week later he had another presentation and he managed to fail that too because of earlier failure and moreover, not getting into the zeal for attempting any other presentation So, one more good opportunity was lost. I am looking forward to him putting aside his fears and picking up from his past failures. 

Frankly speaking, crying over spilt milk is a waste of time and that time can be really used to do something more creating, innovative and resourceful. Moreover, spending time crying leads to nothing but pains, regretion, depression and anger. Decreases confidence and self esteem, allowing gloom to take over. So, why cry?  Crying over spilled milk doesn’t and  hardly motivates anyone. Rather it makes one tired, stressed, hopeless and so on and so forth. The chances of getting it right in the future becomes very slim.
 So, the lesson here is to learn from the mistakes we have made, stop crying over them and follow a better lead next time.

Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog), Flyhiee.com, The Social Talk, and Penprofile.com. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation. Whitney is a full-time Inspirational Blogger and Writer making a living from this new and active medium. I'm also an author and speaker. She started Whitney Ibe's blog in 2016 after she stumbled on a blog post by the blogger; shattered in him. She fell in love with blogging immediately. She explored issues of religion, relationship, culture, society, spirituality, politics, and music. She is doing what she loves to do, writing and inspiring people to become better versions of themselves. Her goal is to add more value to your world than you ever dreamed possible by providing life-changing, inspiring, motivating articles, blog posts, poetry, and short stories. As a life coach, consultant, Edna is focused on an individual's personal development and happiness. She is skilled at providing structured questions to help coordinate an individual's thoughts and has excellent reasoning skills for assisting clients in setting tangible goals. She is accommodating and not prudent with her knowledge. She knows what she’s doing and loves helping others achieve their goals. Many of the top bloggers on WordPress and various websites have learned from her writing style, and it has helped them get their blogs to where they are now. Her website is full of great material to help you follow in her footsteps. She has helped many bloggers, and I can’t praise her enough.  You will learn so much from her.  She has one of those sites that you can easily get lost in reading her excellent posts. She loves dessert,t especially chocolate mixed with whipped cream and strawberries. She enjoys long walks on the beach.

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