“The same diamond looks different from different angles.”

A confession is a powerful tool for restoring broken relationships and for reconciliation. Not many people are happy saying I’m sorry. While some are hasty to apologize and often go back to hurting the person again, some would rather show you through their actions that they are sorry for hurting you and mean it. Whichever category you belong to, understand that the way we handle a conflict generates a bigger hurt than the actual problem itself.

If you’re serious about restoring a broken relationship, friendship, you should begin with acknowledging your own faults. Jesus Christ admonishes us: “First get rid of the log from your own eye; before you deal with the morsel in your friend’s eye.”

When you begin by submissively admitting your mistakes, it calms the other person’s resentment and disarms their attack because they were probably expecting you to be defensive. Don’t make a habit of making excuses or shifting the blame. Honestly own up to any role you have played in the conflict. Be accountable for your mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

As you confess your part of the conflict, please, do not attack the person but the problem. You cannot fix the situation if you’re consumed with fixing the blame. You have to choose between the two. Your point will never be heard or get accepted if you’re always speaking angrily, so choose your words carefully. A soft answer is always soothing to the heart.

 

Restoring relationship

 

When it comes to settling the conflict, how you say it, is as substantial as what you say. If you speak your words offensively, it will be received prickly. Never nag. Nagging never works. You’re never persuasive when you’re abrasive. Be cooperative in the resolve. Peace always has a price tag; it will costs you your dignity, ego, and self-centeredness.

For the sake of the relationship you desire to restore, be willing to accommodate, make adjustments, and show preference to what they need. You don’t have to agree on everything. You can disagree without being disagreeable. Whatever you do, do it in the spirit of peace. It sounds easy to do but it’s not. It would require lots of effort and courage on your part if you’ve made up your mind to bury the hatchet and restore your friendship.

Who do you need to forgive today? Do you have a friendship or relationship that needs restoring? Don’t wait another second. Wait no more, talk to God about that person. Then pick up your phone and begin the process of reconciliation and restoration with love.

God bless you.

Peace and Love

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Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Ibe Consult (Blog), Flyhiee.com, The Social Talk, and Penprofile.com. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation. Whitney is a full-time Inspirational Blogger and Writer making a living from this new and active medium. I'm also an author and speaker. She started Whitney Ibe blog in 2016 after she stumbled on a blog post by the blogger; shattered in him. She fell in love with blogging immediately. She explored issues of religion, relationship, culture, society, spirituality, politics, and music. She is doing what she loves to do, which is writing and inspiring people to become better versions of themselves. Her goal is to add value to your world than you ever dreamed possible by providing you with life-changing, inspiring, motivating articles, blog posts, poetry, and short stories. As a life coach, consultant, Edna is focused on an individual's personal development and happiness. She is skilled at providing structured questions to help coordinate an individual's thoughts and has excellent reasoning skills for helping clients set tangible goals. She is incredibly helpful and not prudent with her knowledge. She knows what she’s doing and loves helping others to achieve their goals as well. Many of the top bloggers on WordPress and on various websites have learned from her writing style and it has helped them to get their blogs to where they are now. Her website is full of great material to help you follow in her footsteps. She has helped so many bloggers and I can’t praise her enough.  You will learn so much from her.  She has one of those sites that you can easily get lost in reading all of her amazing posts. She loves dessert especially chocolate mixed with whipped cream and strawberries. She enjoys long walks on the beach.

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