Ladies this one is not just for you alone(Smiles) so relax a bit.
“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” 
As a blogger, I intend to provide a different viewpoint “The way I see it!” From every angle.
We have all heard the sayings, “walking a mile in someone else’s shoes” or “You can’t understand a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes,” “Don’t judge someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes” and you really cannot.  You still see things from your own perspective. 
 It’s a reminder that we can NEVER know what it’s like to be that person.
 When you hear, see or experience other people’s lives our mind reacts, to try to put ourselves in their shoes and consider how we would deal with it.  It’s impossible for us to actually do so from their true perspective. To do so, we would need to hear, see, and experience things differently and our history of life and personality wont allow us make up for or affect that.
 Let’s take the saying literal – if I were to walk in your shoes for a mile my foot maybe larger or smaller, contoured differently with a higher or lower arch.  My foot might be wider or narrower.  I will NEVER feel what you do! I would feel your shoes through my feet! It would help me understand what it’s like to be me wearing your shoes, but it still doesn’t mean I know what YOU feel!
 You can live with someone your/their whole life but that doesn’t mean you are in their shoes.  You may know intimate details or have a better idea of what the other person goes through, but that is still not walking in their shoes. No matter how much you think YOU do, you do NOT and cannot.  We are all made up of our perceptions, experiences of success and failures, our societal programming, our genders, our whole being. “Psalms 139:14 explains how wonderfully we are made”
 To walk in her shoes we would have to wipe clear all of who we are and then copy over who the other person is.  It is NOT possible to do that. Our parents, society, friends, religious leaders expects us to walk or follow their footsteps and when we slip they are never around to help us up most times, rather they judge us immediately….(This hurts so much). Even when technology allows us/you to dump memories or experiences from others into our own brains, they will NOT be the same!
 We are all created differently and a challenge I find difficult, someone else would find easy.  We are all tainted and tinted by life. .  Closing YOUR eyes for the whole day doesn’t mean you know what a blind person feels!  It might give you a better perspective but NOT the same.  Just as someone who loses their sight and someone who was born without sight, they both have differences and know things differently.
We can only say we think we know what the other person feels or experiences indirectly.  We are guessing albeit an educated guess, it is still a guess!
ROM 14:4 Who are you to condemn someone else’s servants?  Their own master will judge whether they stand or fall.  And with the Lord’s help, they will stand and receive his approval.
So, when we pen down “The New Resolution” let’s remember that we can’t do any of the things we pen down on our except we allow Jesus help us, let’s also pen them down because we mean them and “Not because we want to be him or her”   
    Try not to judge another who wouldn’t want to walk “IN YOUR SHOES”…..

Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog),, The Social Talks,, and Mental Wellness Society International. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation.

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