The world knows how to hurt us. Hurt is inevitable; letting go of the past is a must!

And life is irrevocably complex, yet with all the complexities, fears, and insecurities, the biggest mistake you can make is holding on to someone who has already let you go!
This scenario plays out in every aspect and walks of life.

There is nothing easy about letting go. The ability to hang on to things that hurt and break us is ingrained in us. And we fight to protect and return to them even when there are no blurred lines.

Yet, we must remember that offending is inevitable, and being offended is a choice. Being hurt in this world is unavoidable; holding on to your hurt is a choice.

Until you forgive and let go, you get frozen in time and spend the rest of your life reacting to what happened a long time ago. God’s future for you is too big to spend your life stuck in the past.

For your mental health and peace of mind, could you do your best to forget about it? Don’t dwell in the past. Don’t fix your mind on yesterday. Don’t waste time relieving the past. Don’t beat yourself up for a past mistake that you know God has already forgiven you for.

We cannot idle our brains in the past, whether by resulting in the good times of glory days or by wallowing in disappointment over what has transpired.

We must choose to forget the past!

Perhaps, if I asked the successful people that we know how they made it, the general response would be, “There is no moving forward in the past.” You need to anticipate your future from where you are to triumph intentionally.

Winning in life necessitates forward thinking. Nothing is beautiful in the past for you, no matter who or what is cleaving to you. If they were that good, they wouldn’t be in your past. They would have made it to your future. Don’t trade your future for the benefits of the past.

The gospel changes our view of the past, and it changes us too. We can determine to let God use our personal history for his purposes as we cooperate with Him and point others to Jesus.

God promises in Christ we can become something better than we have become. Let’s focus more on that promise and let go of the past and things that hold us back. Life is right in front of us and not behind us. So let’s think forward.

When we are confronted with change, we respond with resistance. Yet, when we understand that nothing in life is permanent, we gain better control of our thoughts and emotions.

Your ability to let go of things and people who have already left you and accept things as they are would help you be free of emotional stress, frustrations, withering fears, and struggles with loss.
By letting go, you set yourself free.

There is nothing easy about letting go. The ability to hang into things that hurt and break us is ingrained in us. And we fight to protect and return to them even when there are no blurred lines.

We will never know everything, and there will always be people who know better than we do. We should be humble when we have gone wrong and acknowledge the correction we need to make our errors right and move on.

No need to hang on to the past!

If we choose to be proud, adopt a know-it-all demeanor, and become narcissistic, we are only hurting ourselves.

Nothing in life is permanent. And that’s scary. The one you love the most will hurt you, and the one you trust will betray you; that makes us imperfect beings. In all this, however, our ability to forgive and let go will help us face change, including strange ones like letting go!

Today is a privilege to call our own! Make it count!

Blessings and Love

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Whitney Edna Ibe is the Executive Consultant, Life & Mental Health Coach, and Writer/ Editor at Whitney Edna Ibe Consult (Blog),, The Social Talks,, and Mental Wellness Society International. She is in charge of consultations, services, and implementation.

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